Normally, closure is common for emphatic persons when they are in contact with fake people. This closure is actually a kind of protection and it can be very easily noticed because the person manifests verbal and mental difficulties such as stumbling over words.
There are also problems with the thought processes which in this case are quite largely affected. An empathic person is always highly alerted when surrounded by anyone emitting untruthful vibrations.
As witnessed by one hairdresser who shares her experience by describing her awful feeling inside when being with some of her clients -she says that she could never understand this feeling of badness when in contact with people who come across as lovely.
Eventually, she realized that she was an Empath and it all made sense to her. She was feeling the pain of these people who were trying to hide it by behaving in a fake manner.
Taking into consideration the early days of conducting research into emphatic abilities and the fact that there are plenty levels of falseness as well as many reasons for it, it is not always so easy to explain why some people feel so bad to other people.
Here are some features and types of behavior which may help you in clearly determining your feeling of awfulness towards certain people:
• People who hopelessly strive for everyone’s love by acting overly nice in order to be admired;
• People full of hatred and anger but doing their best to convince the world otherwise;
• People who have had emotionally difficult childhood due to which they feel pain and insecurity but play the role of tough guys;
• People who hide their real personality by building completely new one only because they fear that their real personality will not be accepted in the society;
• People who praise others but do not really mean it;
• People who make up stories in order to get the attention for being interesting.
The reaction of an emphatic person regarding the above mentioned traits and behaviors may be:
• Even though these people did nothing to hurt or offend in any way the Empath, he/she would always try to avoid their presence although there is no real reason for doing that.
• Getting speechless is very common reaction. Words seem lost, sentences simply do not want to come out of your mouth, it seems as your brains acts like there is no memory in it.
In such situations an Empath only asks questions and if there is a slight effort of making conversation, it makes no sense.
• Having dreadful feeling in your stomach that will not go away until the person leaves.
• Spending more than an hour in the company of such persons will exhaust you and leave you feeling sick.
• Feeling guilty because even though you may find the person likeable, you dislike the feeling of being with them.
• When surrounded by such people the feeling of helplessness is increased.
However, although emphatic persons feel fakeness and untruthfulness in other people that does not mean that they do not practise being fake themselves.
Some empathic people feel bad around a faker because they are simply picking up the trait that they try to avoid and dislike about themselves thus hiding it from the world, too. We are all actors at this theatre stage which we call world and we all put a face on and play the role of faker at some point in our lives.
For example, we all have been in situations when we had to put on a happy face even though we feel sad or depressed or act annoyed when we are actually indifferent or pretend that we love our job although deep inside we hate it. However, some people play this role everyday.
Sometimes, faking can help us get through hard situations but living it every day is not healthy and therefore, the Empath finds it important to uncover any hidden emotions or traits because burying the characteristics we dislike will never make us complete or happy.
However, the problem here is that many Empaths can not find the root of this behavior.
What makes people unhappy in this world is not knowing who they really are. What causes their pain is hiding the real them from others without knowing the reason, not being true or authentic is emotional imprisonment.
Very often, many of these features that we try to ignore by hiding have actually been inherited and typical for the family line or they may even reflect our past life. Regardless of their origin, what is important is to reveal these traits and if you can not change them then accept and learn to live with them.
Burying them is not the solution and due to their destructive nature they will always emerge and cause damage. The most frequently ignored, avoided, unacceptable traits which people tend to bury are hatred, fear, anger and jealousy.
People get the feeling of hatred when somebody has hurt them. They feel anger because it may have been inherited by an angry mother or father. Jealousy is usually a result of facing a childhood in which the sibling gets more attention whereas if rejected as a child by the parent may create great fear of rejection at later age.
These triggers, which even though may seem simple and rather innocent, are actually a well-paved road to deep insecurity that some people feel should remain forever hidden.