Bisexuality stigmas: Billie Eilish’s controversy. | MORELOS DIARIO

June, The Pride Month LGBTQ+, it is a crucial moment to make visible the various identities that make up this community. However, even within this space that seeks inclusion, stigmas still persist that particularly affect bisexual people. Invisibilized, questioned and often subject to distrust, bisexual people continue to fight for the full recognition of their identity.

What is bisexuality?

Bisexuality is emotional, romantic or sexual attraction towards people of more than one genre. It does not necessarily imply an equal attraction by all genres or that it is constantly experienced. It is a fluid, valid, and deeply personal identity. However, it is also one of the most misunderstood and stigmatized orientations, even within the collective itself LGBTQ+.

Stigmas that still persist

Historically, bisexuality has been relegated to the background. Although fundamental figures of the LGBTQ+movement, such as Brenda Howard —Considerate the “Mother of pride” -, They were bisexual, their legacy is often omitted or minimized. Today, these are some of the most common stigmas that it is urgent to disassemble:

• Promiscuity: There is the false belief that being bisexual implies an inclination towards infidelity or having multiple couples. This stereotype denies the ability to commit and respect for the affective agreements of each person.
• Confusion or indecision: Bisexuality is not a “phase” or a stage prior to defining as heterosexual or homosexual. It is an identity in its own right, as stable and legitimate as any other orientation.
• Lack of commitment: It is usually assumed that bisexual people cannot sustain monogamous relationships. This idea reinforces distrust of them and has a direct effect on their mental health and relational well -being.
• Invisibility: Many times, when a bisexual person maintains a relationship with someone of the opposite genre, their identity is invisible. This occurs in society in general, but also within the LGBTQ+collective, where bisexual people are sometimes perceived as “less compromised“Politically or as “Traitor of the queer”.

The constant judgment: Billie Eilish and her boyfriend.

Comments such as those received by singer Billie Eilish after declaring Bisexual – “He made an album about being a lesbian and now goes out with a man” – These are comments that the singer faces since her relationship with Nat Wolff Although in several interviews he has declared to be bisexual and not lesbian as some say. His case reflects how bisexual orientation is constantly evaluated based on who is related to a person, more than for what he really feels or lives. This logic imposes constant scrutiny that other orientations do not face.

As Elisa Coll explains in her bisexual resistance essay, bisexuality is still seen as an identity “suspicious”, Always under the magnifying glass. It is often expected that bisexual people try their”loyalty”To the LGBTQ+ community through its affective links, which reinforces bifobia and control over its desire.

What can we do?

• Make visible Bisexual stories and experiences without demanding evidence or justifications.
• Name and fight bifobia, even when it comes from within the LGBTQ+collective.
• Accept That bisexuality does not need to be explained or defended: it is a valid, dignified and resistant identity by itself.
• Stop judging To people who are linked to and begin to value their right to love and live freely.

The fight for LGBTQ+ rights must also be a fight against internal prejudices. The bisexual people are not confused, they are not passing through, and they do not have to choose to make their identity taken seriously. In this month of pride, remember that diversity is real and that freedom also implies ceasing to impose labels that limit the expression of desire.

Because being bisexual is not being halfway. It is walking freely in all directions.